The artificially limited discourse around parenthood, and the implicit diminishment of those who choose not to procreate, is an idol in urgent need of being smashed. As a compilation of writing, Shallow, Selfish, and Self-Absorbed is generally very strong, bringing together a diverse range of voices and styles to riff entertainingly on a subject that has seemed, up until now, unriffable.
With welcome, sometimes breathtaking candor, the writers 3 men and 13 women debunk the idea that the childless by choice are homogenous. Some entries are heart-wrenching. Growing up with a parent who is self-absorbed is difficult, and they may become more difficult to deal with as they age. This essential book shows how to cope with your aging parent's narcissistic behavior, and provides tips to help protect yourself and your children from their self-absorbed, destructive actions.
As your self-absorbed parent grows older and becomes more dependent on you, hurtful relationships may resurface and become further strained. In the tradition of Children of the Self-Absorbed, author Nina Brown offers the first book for adult children of aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parents. You will learn practical, powerful strategies for navigating the intense negative feelings that your parents can incite, as well as tips to protect your children from the criticism, blame, or hostility that may exist between you and their grandparent.
In this book, you will gain greater awareness of how and why your parent's self-absorbed behaviors and attitudes get worse, and develop strategies to manage the negative feelings that can arise as a result. You'll also learn to reduce the shame and guilt that may be felt when you feel like you don't want to be a caretaker. Finally, you'll learn to set limits with your parent so you can stay sane during this difficult time.
Having an aging parent can be stressful enough, but dealing with an aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parent is especially challenging. This essential guide will help you through. Challenging popular beliefs about self-esteem parenting, a guide for parents recommends an alternative approach that encourages respect for the self and others, in a reference that explains how to foster such values in children as thankfulness and unselfishness. Now, however, conversation has turned to whether it's necessary to have it all see Anne-Marie Slaughter or, perhaps more controversial, whether children are really a requirement for a fulfilling life.
The idea that some women and men prefer not to have children is often met with sharp criticism and incredulity by the public and mainstream media. In this provocative and controversial collection of essays, curated by writer Meghan Daum, sixteen acclaimed writers explain why they have chosen to eschew parenthood. Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed makes a thoughtful and passionate case for why parenthood is not the only path in life, taking our parent-centric, kid-fixated, baby-bump-patrolling culture to task in the process.
What emerges is a more nuanced, diverse view of what it means to live a full, satisfying life. Do you know someone who is overly arrogant, shows an extreme lack of empathy, or exhibits an inflated sense of entitlement?
Do they exploit others, or engage in magical thinking? These are all traits of narcissistic personality disorder, and when it comes to dealing with narcissists, it can be difficult to get your point across. So how do you handle the narcissistic people in your life?
They're frustrating, and maybe even intimidating, but ultimately, you need to find a way of communicating effectively with them. Disarming the Narcissist, Second Edition, will show you how to move past the narcissist's defenses using compassionate, empathetic communication.
You'll learn how narcissists view the world, how to navigate their coping styles, and why, oftentimes, it's sad and lonely being a narcissist. By learning to anticipate and avoid certain hot-button issues, you'll be able to relate to narcissists without triggering aggression. By validating some common narcissistic concerns, you'll also find out how to be heard in conversation with a narcissist. This book will help you learn to meet your own needs while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments with someone who is at the center of his or her own universe.
This new edition also includes new chapters on dealing with narcissistic women, aggressive and abusive narcissists, strategies for safety, and the link between narcissism and sex addiction. Finally, you'll learn how to set limits with your narcissist and when it's time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior.
This book will help you understand and deal with the abuse from narcissistic personality disorder especially the one of the fathers.
In this book, we'll address the complexities of narcissism. What does it mean to be a narcissist, and what are the negative effects on children with narcissistic parents? You'll also find out what separates narcissistic personality disorder NPD from having narcissistic traits. You will learn: -How destructive narcissism can be to the emotional and psychological well-being of the victim.
If you wonder why you have lingering feelings of anger, hatred, and resentment toward your narcissistic father, it means you were not able to process the traumatic experiences and you carry the burden wherever you go. You are a prisoner of your feelings and emotions.
You don't have to feel trapped in a narcissistic bubble because you can recover from emotional trauma. What's more, the deep wounds inflicted by your father can be healed. You can benefit from knowing that you are not alone, and you are not powerless. You have the capacity to deal with your inner demons and the external forces that are impeding your growth. As an adult child of a narcissistic father, you will have the opportunity to begin to understand why you turned out the way you did so far and why you're struggling to make it through life.
You will have come a great tremendous way when you eliminate self-blame and detach yourself from your father's toxic behavior and faulty parenting. The book offers realistic techniques and strategies to help you hurdle the seemingly insurmountable obstacle that is preventing you from moving forward and reclaiming your life.
The book has been awarded with , and many others. Please note that the tricks or techniques listed in this pdf are either fictional or claimed to work by its creator. We do not guarantee that these techniques will work for you. Some of the techniques listed in Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed: Sixteen Writers on The Decision Not To Have Kids may require a sound knowledge of Hypnosis, users are advised to either leave those sections or must have a basic understanding of the subject before practicing them.
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